** 今天的所写的是有关老公的家事,所以为了尊重他,我是等他首肯后才发的。
这几天都忙着家务事。再多两天,皇太后就驾到了。
想到这里,心里就有种奇妙的感觉。
说句多数所有做媳妇的心里话;此时此刻,我不可能伪装自己做出一副极度高兴的样子来。
但是我也做不到对她不理不睬或不敬。
尤其她在我心里有着一定的份量,一份只能用敬佩而非爱来描述的那种感情。
在我认识的女人中,她算得上是伟大的了。
她能和别的女人共同拥有一个丈夫,能让丈夫享齐人之福。
在同一个屋檐下生活数十年的日子,肯定不是我能理解的。
阿姨早逝,留下6名孩子。照顾自己7名孩子的当儿,她也负起了养育庶出子女。
曾经她对我说,做大妈也不容易啊;孩子不乖不听话,打骂根本是不可能的事。孩子不可能会听她服她。
所幸,这一切辛酸的日子都过去了;换来的是13个孩子的爱和尊重。
她的爱和量度维持了一个完整的家。
如今,老公这一代,13个兄弟姊妹能和睦共处,不为上一代的恩怨而互相怒目相向;
这一切都是这皇太后的功劳啊!
每每想到这里,我就会不能自己的完全折服于她。
因为,多少次我问自己有没有此能耐面对她所面对的?
答案永远是,不可能!
身为女人,能做到这样,我能不佩服她吗?我能不为她竖起拇指吗?
可惜,不管我如何努力,我和她的关系也只限于婆媳之间。
再怎么佩服它敬重她,我也无法把她当成我自己的妈咪一样来爱;很悲哀吧?
或许我未来的日子真的要努力朝这方向前进;至少让她感觉到我其实有尝试努力去让自己爱她一点点的。
为我这个少了爱的媳妇加油吧!
今天,为我家女儿做了这个蛋糕。
可惜她只喜欢蛋糕,不太喜欢忌廉。反而是儿子喜欢极了,一口气吃了半个蛋糕。
** original recipe from Donna Hay
材料:
- (A) 125毫升水,60克无盐牛油
- (B) 2大匙可可粉,150克普通面粉,1/2茶匙苏打粉 (过筛)
- (C) 180克细纱糖
- (D) 1个蛋,60毫升酸奶,1/2茶匙香草精
- (E) 巧克力乳酪酱: 50克牛油,180克cream cheese, 100克糖粉(过筛),80克黑巧克力
做法:
- 预热烤箱150度。
- 把(A) 煮至奶油融化。
- 把(B) 和(C)放入一干净容器内,拌匀。再把(2)加入。用手拌器搅拌均匀。
- 加入(D)拌匀至面糊光滑,无颗粒状。
- 把面糊分别平均倒入两个12cm的圆烤盘内(若用普通烤盘请将烤盘抹上少许奶油)。
- 送入烤箱,烤40-45分钟至熟透。让蛋糕在烤盘内冷却5分钟后才倒扣在铁架上。
- 烤培蛋糕时,可以准备巧克力乳酪酱。
- 首先隔水将巧克力煮溶。
- 用打蛋器把软化的奶油和cream cheese 打至光滑,加入过筛的糖粉,以低速拌匀再加入溶化的巧克力农酱,继续拌打6-8分钟。
- 把2个蛋糕分别切开两份。把巧克力乳酪酱涂抹在一片蛋糕上,叠上一层蛋糕,再上巧克力乳酪酱,重复至4片蛋糕完成。可以随意装饰顶部。
Ingredients:
- 125ml water
- 60g butter, chopped
- 2 tablespoons cocoa, sifted
- 1 cup (150g) plain flour, sifted
- 1/2 teaspoon bicarbonate of soda, sifted
- 1 cup (220g) caster sugar
- 1 egg
- 1/4 cup (60ml) buttermilk
- 1/2 teaspoon vanilla extract
- chocolate cream cheese frosting: (i used my own method)
50g butter, softened, 180g cream cheese, 100g icing sugar, sifted, 80g chopped dark chocolate
Method:
- Preheat oven to 150'C fan-forced.
- Place the water, butter and cocoa in a saucepan over medium heat and stir until the butter has melted.
- Place the flour, bicarbonate of soda and sugar in a bowl, add the cocoa mixture and whisk to combine.
- Add the eggs, buttermilk and vanilla and whisk to combine.
- Divide mixture between 2 lightly greased 12cm round cake tins lined with non-stick baking paper. Bake for 40-45 minutes or until cooked when tested with a skewer.
- Allow to cool in the tins for 5 minutes. Turn out onto wire racks to cool completely.
- While the cake is baking, make the cream cheese frosting. Melt the dark chocolate using double boiling method.
- Place the butter and cheese in the bowl of an electric mixer and beat for 6–8 minutes or until pale and creamy. Add the icing sugar and continue mixing.
- Add in melted chocolate and beat for a further 6–8 minutes or until light and fluffy.
- To assemble, slice the cakes in half horizontally. Place one cake layer on a plate and spread with one quarter of the frosting. Repeat with remaining layers and frosting. Decorate as desired.
婆媳怎样都会有一层隔膜,跟自己的妈妈感觉不一样!
ReplyDelete可能我还没有到那境界吧~
is totally understandable that is hard to have a mother & daughter relationship between MIL & DIL, this is rarely happened. I tried my best trying equal treatment for my mum and mil, but is tire of 1 way thinking, my 100% contribution cannot even compare to her own daughter's 1% so, just retain cordial relationship for me is the best solution for current situation.
ReplyDeleteThe cake looks gorgeous, I love tall cakes and this is 4 layers cake, simply love it!
蛋糕看起来很湿润,没一层的cream都抹得很均匀,赞!
ReplyDeleteI don't have a MIL, but I can understand how you feel...How a wonderful chocolate cake you have it there..
ReplyDeletei share the sentiments with you,jane. I hope i will be a good MIL one day.
ReplyDeletei love your sky high cake, so chocolatey and deli with the cream cheese frosting. Yum~
真的咯~不是每个女人都做得到
ReplyDelete像我妈那样,还帮外面那个女人顾孩子
至到她死为止。。我?才不会那样做叻
第一次看到用 cream cheese 来做装饰蛋糕的忌廉,这食谱一定要收藏好,谢谢分享
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Jane, 受不了时, 到图书馆,到教堂,那里都好, 透透气再出发!
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